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Human relationships lend themselves readily to a spatial metaphor: within any relationship, someone functions as its axis, and someone else revolves around that axis. People tend to organize their relationships around one of two such axes. In the self-centered mode, the individual places himself at the center and expects others to accommodate him. In the other-centered mode, the individual treat..

We have now seen how central a role emotion plays in our psychological life and in our relationships. Emotion, we have argued, is a signal — a piece of information we send about our own state, one that, when accurately diagnosed and expressed, has the power to strengthen relationships. But there is another side to this same capacity. Left ungoverned, the very same emotions that serve us so well ..